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07 November 2011 @ 11:56 pm
shut your eyes and sing to me.  
809334th verse, same as the first.

I probably don't need to regale you all yet again with the tales of my low self-esteem and various Issues with my singing voice, but I'm going to force myself to do it anyway because maybe addressing some of these issues will help me sort them out.

...aaaand of course after I write that I immediately distract myself with something else. Good job there.



Aaaand half a day later...

Okay, so. It's been established that I have Severe Singing Issues. I (kind of) wish I could say that it's because I really hate singing, but unfortunately that's not the problem. I love singing. I really, really love singing. And I think that's actually what the problem is.

Singing, to me, is an expression of my heart and my soul. It's too important, painfully important, almost. It's like baring your soul and being judged for it. And if you get it wrong - whoever's listening - they'll...find your soul lacking. Imperfect. This is something a friend of mine mentioned in regards to studying and performing classical piano pieces, but I think we all have this feeling with certain things we really want. The things that are the most important to us.

(I am actually reading over this post right now and thinking it's probably a bad idea to post it; this is a blog about my journey in acting, after all, but I suppose it's also called "ingenues have feelings too" and I did create the tag "ingenues have too many feelings" for posts like this, as well, so it's probably going up at least until I decide to take it down later)

Yesterday - and Saturday - Maestro PC and I continued with our work on our Secret Government Eggo Project. (I would like to note here for the record that I do call him Maestro in real life, not Prince Charming.) Saturday we actually got some passable work done, but yesterday...well, he got some lovely work done, but I couldn't manage to sing anything properly. I don't know if it's that I've been away from singing lessons for too long and I haven't been practicing properly, or what. He even started to get annoyed with me, and he (generally) has a lot of patience with my singing panic.

Eventually I literally flopped down on the couch in the most dramatic fashion possible and declared I couldn't do it. I wasn't attempting to be dramatic, I really just felt as though I would never, ever get it right and why should I even bother trying? Why should I inflict my inferiority, my mediocrity, on my poor Maestro?

I'm still sitting with that feeling today. Hopefully by Friday - our next scheduled session - I will feel as though I can at least attempt another few takes of what we're working on. Right now I'm burning a CD that I can warm up to since my thing that plays my iPod over my radio in my car is lost to the ether at the moment. Hopefully that will help a little bit - maybe some proper practice this week will help. Yes.

This post has ceased to make sense and now I am done with it.
 
 
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♔ Arturia: kanon ♥ my blood & your voicepearlessence on November 8th, 2011 07:17 pm (UTC)
Singing, to me, is an expression of my heart and my soul. It's too important, painfully important, almost. It's like baring your soul and being judged for it. And if you get it wrong - whoever's listening - they'll...find your soul lacking. Imperfect. This is something a friend of mine mentioned in regards to studying and performing classical piano pieces, but I think we all have this feeling with certain things we really want. The things that are the most important to us.

This. This. All of this. I can't even add anything to this because it is perfect the way you phrased it. I can't say I feel this way in regards to singing, exactly, but I have felt this way. And as far as singing goes...I have felt something similar. You really can't hide anything when you're singing because the very act makes you vulnerable. If you're harboring something inside you, it's going to come out in your voice. There is no way to avoid that. Singing is baring your soul in audible form. And when what's inside are your feelings for your piece, your respect for its composer, that makes for a wonderful performance. But when it's something else...you're left exposed.

I don't know what to say to this, my dearest. There are no right answers. There are no easy formulas. But...just because there are no easy answers doesn't mean we should stop trying, I think.
the girl in all the songs.: it's about letting go ಌ ninaclaireobscure on November 8th, 2011 09:06 pm (UTC)
I am gratified that this makes sense, since while I was writing last night I was convinced that it wouldn't make ANY sense at all and that I would need to delete this post when I woke up.

Your mother and I actually had a conversation about this, strangely enough! About how acting is okay but singing, somehow, is scary because that is indeed your soul you're baring.

I do think this is something that people must feel with other art forms, too, not just music - writing, dancing, and visual art forms. I think dancing and singing are similar in that they are both physical, mental, and an expression of your soul all at the same time.

Even if what you're feeling is a great love of the composer or the music, I think the tendency towards perfectionism can eclipse the expression of love. The idea that you must do it justice, this thing you love, makes it more difficult somehow. The mantra of "I want it to be right, I want it to be perfect," makes it difficult to lose yourself in the piece, to let go of your own insecurity and ego. I, at least, get too caught up in my own failings to just shut my eyes and sing.

Like I mentioned before, I can only hope that it gets easier with practice (like driving!). I haven't given up completely. Sometimes...things are difficult for a reason, I think. That's all.